WHEN INTIMACY IS NEARLY GONE

      A Blog Post

Fighting about intimacy doesn’t create more intimacy.
Shutting down doesn’t, either.

But when those are your only two moves—fight or go silent—you stay stuck. And that stuck place? It’s where connection goes to die.

When you’re not getting any, I know what starts happening.
You spiral.
You start questioning your worth.
You feel rejected. Undesirable.
The pain in your relationship becomes personal. And the self-doubt? It creeps into everything else.

Here’s what most men don’t realize:
The real shift happens when you start showing up differently.

Let’s be honest—are you still relying on old high school moves?
A butt grab. A crass comment.
Those used to work. They don’t anymore.

You’re a grown man.
She needs more than that now.

And if you’re not even aware of how you’re trying to connect—if you’re running on autopilot—it’s no wonder you’re feeling stuck.

So ask yourself:
When was the last time that approach actually worked?
Two decades ago?
It’s time to stop being oblivious.

So what CAN you do?

Start doing the deeper work.
Emotional connection is what creates intimacy—not pressure, not performance, not passivity.

You have to look at how you’re showing up.
At the patterns you’ve been stuck in.
At the way you’ve stopped trying—or tried the same things over and over, expecting a different result.

The man you were when things were good isn’t the man your relationship needs now.
You’ve grown. So should your patterns.

Now is the time to get help.
You don’t need to stay in this cycle.
You can learn how to connect in ways that actually work—without repeating the same moves that got you here.

Your relationship is worth that.