Why Fighting and Silent Treatments Don’t Bring You Closer

Do fights in your marriage always spiral, only to be followed by days of silence?

If so, you know how exhausting the cycle can be. One minute you’re caught in an argument that’s not even about what started it, and the next you’re living in icy silence - no resolution, no repair, no closeness.

In this episode, I break down why the fight-silent treatment cycle is so damaging, what it’s really costing your marriage, and what you can do instead.

You’ll hear:

• Why both fighting and silence send hidden messages about worth

• How childhood patterns shape the way you handle conflict today

• A client story about what happens when “playing the victim” takes over

• Simple, powerful shifts that stop the cycle and build connection instead

• Why repair - not winning - is the most important skill you can bring into your marriage

The point isn’t to avoid conflict. It’s to learn how to handle it in a way that strengthens your marriage instead of tearing it down.

If you’ve been stuck in this cycle, this episode will help you see a way forward.

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